Author Archives: Retha Faurie

About Retha Faurie

Attempting to question everything, reject the bad and hold fast to the good.

Does BDSM give society wise messages about consent?

There is more than one way to diminish the importance of something. Compare: a) “Money is unimportant, don’t complain about your poverty.” b) “Money is very important. I will give you 5 cents – then stop complaining about your poverty.” … Continue reading

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How to support truth and justice in a he said/ she said rape accusation

Question: “I hear stories of high-profile rape accusations, or of men around me accused of rape. How do I respect the facts in a he said/ she said story?” Answer: Start by asking who you are, and what your responsibility … Continue reading

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Why no decent person should call any other human being a “TERF’

I don’t know you, but I can guess a few things about you. The first is that you see yourself as a good person. Or perhaps a reasonably decent person, or a wonderful person. Whatever. The point is, on a … Continue reading

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‘Doing all this electronic work makes me hungry, so I eat a lot’, he said elaborately. (e-labor-ate) ‘Is it morally right to take this road? Will I do good or harm to others by taking it’, she asked pathetically. (path-ethically) … Continue reading

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I was born to be a radical feminist – and it is nothing radical

I When I was in school and a boy teased me, the other girls said: “It is because he likes you!” I told them that if he likes me, he is supposed to treat me well. It seemed elementary to … Continue reading

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Gender discussion: Could we please include all the stakeholders?

I have been discussing gender roles for years. Nowadays, when I do that, transgender activists also enter the discussion. From them, I learned that some people in this discussion exclude others and are filled with fear.

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Gender issues: Who are the stakeholders?

  “He commanded that I give up my car, my tv, my guitar, etc, I complied with only a whimper of protest. I didn’t have the rights to own things anymore. I was a wife now, and my husband was … Continue reading

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