Vox claim #6) …most women overrate themselves by at least two points because they rate themselves by their hottest-ever hookup rather than by the average of their past romantic record.
If that claim was true, (more…)
The first time Louise encountered Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism on the Internet, she was revolted. How could anybody treat another human like that? She was so disgusted, that the pictures kept replaying in her mind.
And then a strange thing happened. From the replaying of these pictures in her mind, she starts to find them … dare I say it? She starts to find them arousing. This is a surprise to her, as previous pain in her life made her somewhat immune to sexual responses.
Now, Louise’s reaction is not abnormal at all. The female body reacts to the possibility of rape by at least making the chances of injury less. Her physical arousal at the thought of sexual violence does not mean Louise wants to be raped, but the opposite: Her body wants to be unhurt.
“So”, she thinks, “I am not that abnormal? I can respond sexually?” (more…)
When can you call yourself a good person? The usual secular answer goes something like this:
I don’t hurt anyone. I do not want to hurt anyone. So I am a good person.
I previously argued that this approach to moral goodness is less than adequate, but that is not today’s topic. Point is, someone who does not want to hurt others – physically, emotionally, economically, etc. is regarded, by almost any set of values including the purely secular, as superior to those who want to hurt others. And that simple baseline idea of morality: “Do not hurt others” is a fairly good start for a moral conscience. Per extention, hurting others on purpose is the baseline standard of moral evil.
Where does that put people who like sadistic or masochistic acts? (Warning: Violent sexual graphics in link.) (more…)
How could God punish homosexuals? Homosexuality is not a choice” – Argument from many homosexual apologists.
I will start by agreeing on this: I do not believe people should be punished for acts they did not choose.
Some gay apologists try to change the Christian opinion on gay sexuality by telling us the Bible was translated wrong all these years. My problem lies in what they try to change the meaning to. A side effect of the understanding in much of gay apologetic material, is that God rejects child (boy) rape victims for being victims.
Here are the verses they re-interpret, with the Greek words they dispute un-translated: (more…)
When I read this, I was angry. A mother tells that her mentally handicapped (about 8-10 year cognitive level) daughter was raped, and being the pro-lifer that she is, she refused a pill that may (on purpose) prevent contraception, or may (not the purpose, but some claim it is possible) prevent the implantation of a fertilized egg.
The article seems to be in a: “Wow, am I not wonderfully pro-life, praise me” vein. Not one thing said: “My poor daughter!” She say: “After the police called me to tell me she’d been found, the officer asked me to meet him at the clinic and be reunited with my daughter. When I arrived, I was led to the Gloria Steinem Conference Room. I’m not kidding; that alone almost made me pass out.”
Serious? She is waiting to get reunited with her missing, mentally handicapped daughter, and her thoughts are not “How is my daughter?” but “Yuck, I am in a room named after someone I dislike!” Personally, if I was on my way to a loved one who was attacked, I would not mind (at that moment) if it was the Joseph Stalin Conference Room. (more…)
(Warning: Sexually explicit theme)
I read the blog yesterday of a guy who calls himself a “dom”, on which there was a recent post by Allie, a woman who allows herself to be abused by him.
After work, she quickly entered a shop to buy a magazine. He found out about it. For that reason, she was, and is still, sadistically, painfully punished. I would not go into the sexually explicit details of humiliation and punishment, but it is clear from her writings that she has a terrible self-image (she calls herself i, not I), cried of both pain and frustration today, and she is getting more and more disconnected from her feelings. (“Don’t ask me how i feel. He decides what i feel.”)
She claims she begged him to take charge of her. (more…)